I knew that going from one to two kids would be a HUGE change. And so I sought the advice of others vigorously, trying to prepare myself for what was to come. But nothing can really prepare you to have your world rocked by a little human being - a new life bursting with potential.
Newborns, by nature, take over your life for a little while. Words like balance and routine go entirely out the window and you literally just hang on for dear life. It's a beautiful thing though, and for awhile, there is NOTHING wrong with just letting go of all expectations, all plans, all preconceived ideas of what you thought life would look like. It never looks quite the way you thought.
Yes, you'll be tired - so beyond tired you'll wish there was a word stronger than exhaustion. But it'll be a happy tired, like the tired you were on your honeymoon ;) Tired from loving so deeply, giving yourself so fully, and experiencing a love like you never thought possible (I'm talking about you and the baby!) Embrace the tired. Just give it a big hug and try to love it, because it will be your closest companion for months - possibly years, and THAT IS OKAY. It's okay that your answer to "how are you doing?" is usually "good, but tired." Maybe instead of "good, but tired", try "good AND tired", because you'll soon learn that one does not negate the other. Parenting is GOOD and it is TIRING.
When things don't go the way you'd hoped, and the toddler is tantruming, the baby is screaming and the dog is yapping it's face off - all at the same time, try to just breath. Imagine yourself somewhere hot, sipping a margarita, about to jump in a crystal clear pool. The screaming will eventually stop, and as long as everyone is physically safe, it's okay to sit there and wait for it to all end. Most times after you take this moment to breath, you'll find you are able to fix each problem and stop the screaming quite efficiently. But other times there will be nothing you can do but wait and breath, and drink your imaginary, umbrella laden drink. This too shall pass.
The baby will spit up on it's sleeper right after you've bathed her and are about to lay her in bed. My advice, just wipe it off and put her to bed in that same sleeper. You can always change it in the morning. And the toddler will wipe his dirty fingers on his clean shirt only a moment after you put it on him. Just leave the shirt on. Dirty clothes are just apart of your life now and unless you're going to a wedding or a funeral, I say let them get dirty. Almost everything will work itself out in the wash.
Having two is hard work. All you mama's with three or four, or even more than that, I truly don't know how you do it. But I do know that there is nothing like quite like raising a child.
Nothing like the smell of a newborn as you cuddle her close and bury your face in her neck. Nothing like the way your toddler grabs your face in his hands and rubs his nose right into yours, a smile stretched across his face. Nothing like the love the swells in your heart when you take a moment to stare into the eyes of this beautiful life God's gifted you with and realize she is yours.
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